I read an interesting article the other day where the author wrote about what he would say to his 21 yr. old self. This is similar to something I mentioned in another one of my posts about talking to your inner child, the part of you that still clings to the outdated beliefs you had as a child. I began thinking about what he wrote in his article and it inspired me to create my own set of tips I would say to my 21 yr. old self, and it goes like this:
Be Patient - I know you want to see results right now, but if you can just learn to be more patient you will reap all those wonderful rewards. If you continue to allow your impatience to control you, you will continue to encounter problem after problem and add to your anxiety level.
Let go of the obsessiveness - You are in super shape and people tell you this all the time, but you are choosing to ignore the facts and stay locked up in your obsessiveness with your attempts for perfection. There is way more to life than just how you look and people like you for who you are, not solely on how you look.
Challenge yourself - Let go of your insecurities. Don't be afraid to try new things just because of your lack of self confidence. I promise you that if you feel the fear and do it anyway, your self confidence will begin to soar. Stop listening to all those negative messages from your past saying that you're not smart enough to accomplish the things you desire to accomplish.
Be more selective - When choosing someone to get involved with, take your time and get to know this person instead of allowing your emotions to control you. Just because they might say all those sweet little words you like to hear doesn't mean that it's sincere. Let their actions speak louder than their words, let them prove their love for you through their actions, and that always takes time to develop. You have plenty of time in front of you, there is no rush. Work on finding out who you really are, what makes you tick, explore things about yourself that you didn't know before, enjoy this time for yourself.
Don't take it personally - If someone doesn't acknowledge what you have said or decides that you are not exactly their type of company they like to hang out with, don't take it too personally. Everyone is different in how they interact with others. It usually has nothing to do with you as a person whatsoever, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, you are fine just the way you are. Learn to like yourself, to like your own company, and in doing this it will shine through your personality.
Be yourself - Don't be afraid to be yourself. When you try to be someone else you are denying your true nature. You are more or less saying you are a worthless human being. Let your true personality light the way, respect it and love it. When you do this, others will be more attracted to you automatically. Write down all your positive qualities and look at this often.
Limit your sunbathing - Trust me, when you get older you will look back and wish to goodness you had not abused your skin this way. It's always nice to look as tan as possible, you may be enjoying it immensely now but in the years to come there will be that day when you will be complaining about all the sun spots and dryness of your skin, and it's irreversible unless you want to spend a lot of money, and even then it might make a bit of a difference but will never take it away.
These are just some of the things that I might say to my 21 yr. old self. When I think back to that time in my life, sometimes I think I might have taken this advice to heart and sometimes I think it might have just went into one ear and out the other but who knows. It just goes along with the posts I've written about where the messages you receive along your way help to form the decisions you make in life, so in that case, I may not have fully listened but there would have been certain words that would have stuck in my subconscious that would later pop back up when making certain decisions. I am doubting whether what I just wrote made any sense or not, I hope you get gist of what I am trying to say.