Do you suffer from anxiety, panic or obsessive worry? Do you think that the whole world is negative and out to sabotage you? If so, then odds are that you are listening to someone elses messages stemming from the past. It may be messages you have heard all your life, messages that are ingrained in your subconscious mind. It can sometimes take a lot of years before recognizing these voices and who they really belong to. Then there are some people who live their entire life without recognizing them.
We all have mental chatter going on in our minds constantly every day, all day. In order to eliminate any kind of behavior problem stemming from anxiety, obsessive worry, panic or fear you must first start paying attention to the mental chatter that goes on in your mind throughout the day. This is something that most of us do not pay any attention to. We listen to the voices without even giving a thought about what they are saying, or if it’s even something we truly believe. This is the way most of us have been conditioned from early on. It’s just another one of those mindless habits that never get paid any attention.
Here’s an activity that can help you become more in tune with what’s going on with your thoughts:Take a pad or piece of paper and pen, and for 24 hours record your thoughts, no matter how insignificant they may seem at the moment. It doesn’t have to be every single thought, just as much as you can possibly record down. At the end of the day, take out that piece of paper and look over what you wrote. Is it mostly positive, or mostly negative?
There are messages left over from our youth that sometimes stay with us throughout our lives. Unless you came from a very emotionally healthy, supportive, encouraging family more than likely you have gathered a bucketful of negative messages. These messages could words such as “You just can’t trust anyone out there”, “Life is really hard, it’s no picnic”, “It’s impossible, it can’t be done”, “It’s a cruel world out there”, “You’re just like your Dad/Mom, you’ll never be any different.” Some of us grew up hearing messages similar to that tune and have carried them with us all this time, still listening to them and allowing them to form our beliefs about ourselves and life. Instead of listening to what we really think, we listen to someone else’s beliefs about themselves and life in general.
To overcome this, start listening to whose voice and beliefs you are living by. You might be surprised once you become more enlightened to it. I know I was when I finally grasped the truth of it all.