Always do what you are afraid to do......~Ralph Waldo Emerson
How many times have you allowed your fear to hold you back from living your life to the fullest? Fear is usually the underlying cause of most problems. It can hinder you from progressing forward in life. I know, because fear has been my biggest hindrance throughout my entire life. I allowed fear to interfere with my deep desires in life. But when you have finally had enough of fear controlling your life is usually when you decide to do something about it. That's what I did.
The thing about it is, if you find yourself in a comfort zone and finally decide to venture out of it, you must not allow yourself to sit back down after that first accomplishment. I had been repeating the same behavior for a long time. I would get sick of being stuck in my zone and would get up and take some action towards doing what I feared, would be successful in fulfilling it but I would sit right back down in my comfy place. I had this notion that all I had to do was make myself do that fearful thing once and then I could go right back to my little hiding place again, and all is well. Doesn't quite work that way. I would always say I just needed to recuperate first before moving on further, then before I knew it I was right back to square one again having to gather up all this enormous strength and nerves to go at it again with something else.
I remember the first scary thing for me was getting myself up and attending a business function where I would be presenting my new business to other business owners and the public, and doing some simple networking. I was so scared to get myself out there, out of fear of what others would think about me and my business idea, that I almost talked myself out of it. But what I kept reminding myself of was the fact of how sick and tired I was of just sitting in my little corner and feeling left out and miserable, expecting others to come to me instead of me reaching out. Once I got to the event and set my stuff up, I began talking with so many interesting business owners with the services they offered. It took my mind off of my fears and helped me to instead focus on my desire to grow my business.
Problem was, after the event I felt great that I had ventured out, but I allowed myself afterward to sit back down. I felt as though I had put so much effort into getting myself there that I needed time to recuperate before trying the next thing, but the end of the recuperating time dragged on and I found myself stuck again, right where I was in the beginning.The second scary thing I forced myself to face was joining Toastmasters. I had hoped it would help me in my fears of speaking up in front of groups of people and also help me with my interactions with clients. I managed to keep myself making it to each meeting for about a month, then once again, I let it fizzle away and I lost all my motivation and drive to succeed. I did, however, gain a couple of new clients out of it!
The third scary thing I did was took on the challenge of having my own local radio show. I did this for about 3 or 4 months on a weekly basis. It was something that I had never imagined myself doing, something that was so out of the norm for me. I took the challenge because once again I wanted to face some fears head on. It was scary but at the same time exciting to face this type of challenge. I know my voice was jittery sounding at first and especially when I the first person called in to ask questions. I was terrified that my mind would just go blank and I would look like an idiot. My mind didn't go blank and I ended having this caller becoming a client.This challenge of the radio show is what actually got me past that hump of sitting back down. I finally had proved to myself that these things I fear are only fearful because of the picture I paint of them in my mind before even trying them. I started realizing that things can look awfully big and frightening from a distance and can make you run the other way, but if you make yourself face that fear and do it anyway despite the scary thoughts, you will get where you want
to go. It's like facing the bully in school, he only appears to be big and powerful but when you finally decide to stand up to him, then usually he will back down simply because he's mainly all talk and likes to feel powerful.
Do the thing you fear the most and you will certainly overcome any obstacle in your way and soon be living your dream!