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« How to find Peace | Main | To Believe or not to Believe »

Aug 17, 2010


Neil Fleischmann

Very true and very well put - this post, and the blog in general. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.


Thanks Neil for the compliment, and your welcome!


Very relative to me today. Just had someone do something pretty terrible. As I had to look at "things" I realized that the thing that's most upset me isn't that he lied (has been lying and playing games for a number of years now) but that I fell for the lies. So .. I forgive myself for wanting something enough that I ignored my own intuitive warning signs and I move forward. Does that excuse him .. no .. but that's his "stuff" to deal with not mine.


D, I completely understand how you feel. I went through several marriages where it was one big lie after another. And you're absolutely right when you say that you ignored your intuitive warning signs. That's what I finally recognized I was doing after many years of torment. My gut feelings were telling me something wasn't right but my emotional self didn't want to listen. After I came to this awareness in myself is as soon as I decided that I could no longer accept dishonesty in my relationships, I knew that I deserved better. You're on the right track by letting go of his "stuff". Relationships built upon lies cannot thrive and grow. Thanks for sharing that.

Julie Hengel

I like that..."interesting point of view you have" I'm going to repeat it over and over instead of taking every other person's opinion to heart!


Hi Julie, I was introduced to that little saying, "interesting point of view" from a mentor and it has stuck with me throughout. Some sayings seem to just click for some reason.


Thank you so much for this. I've been going through a rough day and I constantly feel like I let others control my emotions by letting every little comment that my brain can interpret the wrong way get to me, and constantly comparing myself to others. I googled "not letting others control how you feel" and found this. It really made me feel a lot better, and I am going to save this on my laptop so I can read it again if I need it. Thank you!!


Hey Nora, glad you found my blog post and happy to hear that it gave you some added encouragement and strength! I feel for ya, I've struggled with allowing others to control my emotions ever since I can remember. I guess once you start to realize you really do have a choice in the matter, you begin letting those things just roll right off your back and don't even give it a second thought, and keep repeating to yourself "interesting point of view that is."

A Facebook User

This really hit home. I have a friend that needs to read this. I hope you do not mind that I posted a link to this in a FB comment. If it is a problem I will remove it. Thank you for a nice positive post. I was looking for the words to express this and yours were just perfect!


Thanks for posting the link on FB! Don't mind at all, feel free!

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